Because you are retired, everyone thinks that you have nothing to do. So if they need something, they automatically assume that they can count on you! But the fact is that you worked all your life and raised your kids, and maybe you feel like you have “done” enough. Now, you just want time to yourself to relax and make some plans of your own! I’m not saying that we should be “couch potatoes” and never do anything. I simply think that we have the right to choose what we want to do and quit feeling guilty about saying “no” if we had rather not!
Decide what you really enjoy doing….even if it is just going to get a pedicure or going to the mall and spending all day “just looking”. Get together with your friends when you can and don’t drift apart in these later years….friends are important! Enjoy doing things with your husband! My husband and I sometimes go out to the mall and get an ice cream. We sit at a table and watch all the people go by. That doesn’t sound too exciting, I guess, but we talk and laugh about all kinds of things and just enjoy the moment.
I know that things are different for every one of us. I would like to hear your comments on this post, and if you have learned to say “no”. I will end with a quote I heard the other day: “Don’t live your life waiting to die”. I think that is very good advice….don’t you?